My friend revealed to me that I mother people too much...my first response was, "So, what is wrong with that". I thought about that comment later and asked myself, "what affect does my mothering habit have on people?"
From a man's perspective, being mothered begins to make them feel inadequate and challenges their ability to feel accomplished. I never looked at it that way. Being a mother is all I've known for the past 25 years, taking care of my children, my husband and family. I did not realize I had to separate that duty from my to do list...So, as of today, I will make every effort to not mother any longer...
If you trip and fall, I will be there to help you up, but I will no longer tell you what direction to turn, ask you if you have your keys or cell phone, you are on your own...This momma's moving on.....
2 comments:
This is something I need to learn also. I want to make sure everyone (adult or child) has everything, is okay, doesn't need anything, etc. I need to quit trying to take care of everyone and be more of an equal. Thanks for this blog.
Lee, itn't it great at our age to learn from our mistakes and enjoy the journey?
We are just doing what comes natural by caring for those we love. However, grown men prefer not to be mothered or smothered, so let them stand tall and be men on their own while you love them anyway.
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